Welcome! My name is Nicole Thomte, my pronouns are she/her or they/them, and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, #3853 in Minnesota and #126567 in Iowa.
I am familiar with the variety of consensual non-monogamy, from swinging to polyamory, and I approach all of my work through an intersectional feminist lens, with acknowledgment of the importance of power imbalances in relationships. My focus in my practice is to serve those individuals, couples, and families who live outside the confines of dominant society's expectations. I offer affirmative therapy for LGBTQIA+/ kink/ CNM/ polyam/ etc persons, using a largely solution-focused approach. I am also interested in sex-positive therapy and sex therapy, while still recognizing the validity of asexuality in its own spectrum.
My therapeutic style is non-directive, exploratory, accepting, and acknowledging the humor that often leavens the stress of life. You're the expert in your life, and I'm here to provide support and an outside perspective to help find patterns and connections that may not be visible to you in the midst of your troubles. What you bring to the session is what interests me, rather than relying on labeling and constraints of diagnoses.
Choosing to sit with people in a therapeutic connection as my third career path has been one of the longest and most complex decisions I have made in my life thus far. It has also been one of the most rewarding and transformative experiences I have ever encountered.
I worked at a behavioral health agency since I was approved for my state intern license in 2013 through 2019. The population we served were most often persons who have the most difficulties: often already on disability or in the interminable waiting period after having applied, with multiple health troubles, and with the least access to needed resources.
Since before even starting my work as a state intern, I had begun attending supervision groups and co-facilitating survivor groups under the auspices of Gender Justice Nevada in November, 2012 through 2018. Over those nearly six years, I learned from the bravery of survivors of sex/gender based violence, oppression, and discrimination, including sex/gender diverse young persons, the families and loved ones of sex/gender diverse persons, and sex workers, as I provided therapeutic group facilitation in addition to individual, couple, and family therapy, due to my drive to advocate for marginalized communities.
I am a compassionate, driven, tireless advocate for those who are forced into the margins of society, and I look forward to the gift of what you wish to share with me.
I provide teletherapy services to anyone in Minnesota and Iowa. Please see my InclusiveTherapists.com profile for current cash rates and insurances accepted for MN only at this time.